You Do Know What You Want—You’re Just Scared to Admit It
I hear this from clients all the time—
“I don’t know what I want.”
But after a few questions, after taking a holistic look at their life and values… the truth always surfaces.
It’s not that they don’t know—it’s that they’ve been scared to say it out loud.
Because if they admit it, it becomes real.
And if it’s real, they have to actually look at it.
It’s not the knowing that’s the problem. It’s the fear behind it.
• Fear of judgment – What will people think?
• Fear of failure – What if I can’t do it?
• Fear of stepping into the unknown – What if it doesn’t work out?
So they tell themselves they’re confused instead.
But confidence isn’t something you ‘have’ or ‘don’t have.’
It grows through action.
You have to do the damn thing before clarity arrives.
Embodied action moves you closer to knowing what you want.
And yeah, doing the thing? Hard. Actually, the hardest thing ever.
But who said it was going to be easy?
If you choose easy, you choose staying the same.
And I don’t mean ‘kill yourself with the hustle’ kind of hard—
I mean the kind of hard that tests you, expands you, challenges you.
And deep down? That’s what you want. The growth. The transformation.
I used to be the same. Stuck in my head, overthinking everything.
I had all the ideas, all the inner workings figured out… but no action.
I was waiting—for the right time, for the moment confidence would just land in my personality.
Eventually, something had to give. I had to move.
I got sick of thinking and talking.
And the second I took action? My whole world opened up.
Literally.
In 2022, I took a sabbatical from my corporate job and moved to Bali for a year.
I had no idea what was on the other side—especially since Mama Bali has a reputation for spitting you out if you can’t flow with her.
I didn’t know what people would think.
I didn’t know if I’d ‘make it work.’
I didn’t know how I’d feel when I got back.
But I went anyway.
And it turned out to be the best decision I ever made.
When I came back to England, I quit my job.
Everything changed. I changed.
I became more of myself.
Because I chose movement over overthinking.
If this resonates with you, you’re not alone.
I know how it feels to be stuck in your own head, to have all the ideas but no real movement. But I also know what happens when you finally step out of your own way.
If you’re done waiting and you want to start taking real, embodied action, I’d love to support you. I have a few 1:1 coaching spots open this month.
You can book a free discovery call here:
Or just hit ‘reply’ and tell me—what’s the thing you do know you want but haven’t admitted yet? I’d love to hear.